The dating game times 2
They’re looking for someone someone who is going to help them see what they “missed out on” in life or who magically negates some quality they don’t like about themselves.They want someone who will take them out on adventures and show them the magic that is the wonder of life…It seems like everyone else is looking at you with a mix of contempt and pity. Small wonder then that you might feel like demanding some acknowledgement from the world.You feel like you have a neon sign over your head that screams “this guy can’t get laid” and everyone is snickering at you whenever they see you. And what’s one of the best ways to show that you’re not the same loser you used to be? Showing your girlfriend off like a prize isn’t going to convince anyone that you’ve changed.It’s a very understandable motivation, when you get right down to it. You’ve been reinforcing your archetype, building your new style and you’re starting to have some successes.
You may be trying to unlearn the lessons from an emotionally abusive relationship.
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying you can’t date if you’re not solidly middle class; you can date quite successfully on the cheap.
Nor am I saying you shouldn’t be dating if your life isn’t somehow perfect…
Or you’ve been put on the graveyard shift and when most people are out socializing (or asleep), you’re stuck at work.
You might be trying to hold down a job, even get a degree. It might be that you have family issues – having to care for a relative, or an incredibly stressful intra-family conflict.