Orthodox view on dating
God wants to have a special relationship with each of us, and we, too, since we’ve been created in His image and likeness, feel this as well- someone’s heart connecting with ours.Physical attraction is healthy, since God has given us these feelings as well.Going on dates with one person on a regular basis, or being a “boyfriend” or a “girlfriend,” means that you spend time together in order to learn a little more about yourself, and what kind of person you gel with.There are unique qualities about ourselves that we only begin to understand in a relationship with the opposite sex- and I‘m not referring to physical relations, but spending time and even just conversing with the other person.Is there any word in the English language that is thrown around as much as “love”? We hear people using this word often in public, when saying something like “Oh, I love that!” or, “I’m in love.” Certainly, everyone seems to know what love is, and I’m pretty sure everyone has an idea of what it means to be “in love.” But truly, despite how often we hear this word, do we really know what love is?I‘m thankful for many things in my life- my wife, my family, my friends, health, food, shelter, clothing, the freedom to worship freely in our country. I am thankful when I see friends of mine find someone right for them, date, and get married. Is there any song on the radio these days that is not about this word? How many clothing lines, backpacks, school supplies, you name it- have hearts on them or other love-themed pictures? I‘m thankful for the fact that I have ended up with THE right girl.
But there are a few simple thoughts I have about dating that might be beneficial to keep in mind.Something about that person’s soul connects with us.Have you heard a story of someone meeting their future spouse, and they knew right away they wanted to marry them?If we are to have a healthy relationship, however, even a “healthy crush,” physical attraction cannot be the only attraction we feel, and we should not be duped by pop culture into thinking it is. “Love” is an emotional reaction, yes, and something physical, but it is also very much a function of our soul, something we truly realize in our faith in Jesus Christ who loves each of us. I‘m thankful for the fact that I have ended up with THE right girl.With this in mind, we can be guided to a healthy idea of love, and who we are “in love with.” I‘m thankful for many things in my life- my wife, my family, my friends, health, food, shelter, clothing, the freedom to worship freely in our country. I am thankful when I see friends of mine find someone right for them, date, and get married.